With the tragic passing of beloved icons Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, it’s more important than ever to find and maintain your happy space not only in your inner world, but also your physical and social surroundings from your home and office to the people you choose to let in your world. Life is hard and challenging enough. There’s a lot of pressure to be someone else other than your authentic, true self. Society teaches us that we should all strive to “succeed” and to chase “Instagram” fame so that you’ll feel important, better about yourself once you have achieved your 15 minutes of fame and success. With everything going on in the external world, it’s extremely challenging to be and remain positive and happy. It takes a lot of continued focus and practice, but once you get in the habit of self awareness, empathy, and shifting your mood, you’ll experience true freedom and happiness. So, how do you do that or where do you start? Here are some things I to reach my happy space that I hope will inspire you to come up with your own ideas so you can find and maintain your own happy space.
I love reading inspirational and motivational quotes that mean something to me. It lifts my spirit and makes me smile. I place inspirational quotes that resonate deeply with me (either handwritten or printed out) and stick them around my home where I can easily see them from my bedroom to my home office, and bathroom. It’s a constant reminder for me to remain positive, to feel inspired and motivated, and to lift my mood. If there is an inspirational quote that resonates with you, place them around your home. You can hand write it, print it out, or get a beautiful art print that you can frame and hang in your home or office.
Items that bring you Joy and make you Smile
I collect postcards and snow globes of my travels around the world from Australia, New Zealand, Turkey, India, Iceland, Ireland, Bhutan, and Europe just to name a few. Every time I look at them, it makes me smile and brings me joy because I love traveling and I have fond memories of positive experiences traveling to these amazing beautiful countries. I’ve met some wonderful people during my travels who I keep in touch with to this day. Do you have a collection that resonates with you and brings you joy? Display them proudly in your home or office space. Whether it’s a collection of stamps, vintage objects, textiles, tribal artifacts, Matryoshka dolls, or books, showcase them because there’s nothing more rewarding than seeing something that truly brings you joy and makes you smile. I would group a few items together and place it in various locations that work well with your overall decor theme, versus displaying all items together in one area of your home or office.
Oh Joy, Color!
As you know, I LOVE color. My home is filled with color from bold blues to classy black, various shades of purple, emerald green, sunny yellow, and any colors which brings me joy. Since most of the design projects I work on usually involve neutral colors because white, gray, and beige are just the trend right now, I love when I get to come home to a space that reflects my authentic self that is soothing, calm, and uplifts my spirit. My home is my sanctuary and it’s filled with colors, objects, and accessories that make me smile and really inspires me to be the best version of me. If you have a favorite color whether it’s hot pink, apple green, or bright orange, absolutely incorporate it in your home or office if it will bring you joy and make you smile. Whether your favorite color is used boldly on all 4 walls of a room or on a smaller scale through accessories or accent pieces, go for it. If hot pink was one of my favorite colors, you’ll bet I’ll have a room either painted in hot pink or a room scattered with lots of hot pink accents!
Have A Conversation
Having someone you can talk to and getting support from family and friends or someone you trust is so important. If you have a problem that you don’t know how to solve, want to brainstorm ideas, or just want someone to listen to you vent, talk to someone you trust or someone who you feel won’t pass judgement, criticism, or negativity. Don’t be afraid to ask for help and reach out to someone to talk. Having an honest, open conversation about anything that resonates deeply with you or something that is wearing you down that feels like a heavy burden, will lift your spirit by having a conversation. It will shift your mood from what it was previously to a new state of awareness and being which can change things around in an instant. When I need to talk to someone, I call up one of my good friends who understands me, doesn’t criticize, and just listens to me talk which feels really really good. My mood is immediately raised and I feel better which is what we are all striving for – to feel better than how we felt before and reach our happy space. Let go of anyone in your life who is toxic, negative, sucks your energy, and doesn’t serve your best interest. You’ll be better off in the long run.
Laughter really is the best medicine. That’s why I love laughing and what makes me laugh? Comedy and Improv! I love watching reruns of popular sitcoms like Seinfeld. Laughter raises my mood and I just feel better after watching funny sitcoms which takes my focus off thoughts that have been wearing me down. I also love improv such as Whose line is it Anyways. It amazes me that Ryan, Colin, and Wayne can think that fast on their feet, yet it’s intelligent, sarcastic, crude, and hilarious all at the same time. Find something that know makes you laugh and smile. It can be anything from your kids, pets, friends, or coffee. What makes you laugh and smile will shift your mood to your happy space which is what one should aim for as much as possible.
Find the things that make you happy (small or big) and focus on it as much as you can. Do whatever you need to do so you can shift your mood and feel better than how you felt before. I hope you spend the time to figure out what genuinely makes you happy because being in your happy place brings you true freedom which is what we are all striving for. If you need help, talk to someone you trust or reach out to a professional who can help you talk through things.